Why do we substitute sex for solutions?

Is it that we are utterly scared of the truth? Are there truths and answers that should not be revealed, or better yet being hidden for the delay of the inevitable? Approximately 8 out of 10 relationships get dragged out longer than necessary because people are afraid to let go, the love factor, and/or both parties decide to take another chance at romance with the same person with no real solutions for fixing the problems they had from the beginning. It is an epic tale of tranquility and calmness at first, everything is going well...so you think, and then one day out of no where it hits you, BAMM like a Mike Tyson hook to the abdomen and there you are, left laying in the middle of the ring thinking about what just happened and what could of possibly went wrong. Lets see if I can paint the picture. You guys got in an argument Thursday, broke up Friday, both parties go out and experience Saturday, speak Saturday night, and again on Sunday, seemed to have patched up your differences by Monday, had sex Monday and Tuesday night and were back together Wednesday. Ever had this happen to you?

Don't get me wrong I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, or girl. The sensation, the passion, the intensity and even the morning after, but when the actual action starts to serve as a cop out, or substitution for real issues that need to be discussed that's when you have a problem. The idea of letting sex dictate the health and stability of your relationship is a call for heartbreak and disaster. But the combination of both open communication and sex will allow a couple to gain knowledge, and be able to comprehend better the wants and needs of their partner. Communication is the foundation, sex is the reinforcement. Sex serves as a quick temporary fix, not a gold bond treated permanent fix. People place more value and worth on sex rather than answers to problems, or ideas to difficult, complex situations which could drastically improve the relationship.

The feeling sucks you in, then your body gives in, one thing leads to another and next thing you know.....

romance and relationships