When you 1st get a woman's number, should one leave a voice message if she doesn't pick up?

So.... it is the end of the night and the liquor has completely consumed your emotions, you are feeling bold, confident, and care free! Now is the time to make your move; after careful consideration, and evaluation one finds the one that captures their attention. You walk up to her, start to chit chat and next thing you know you have gotten her number, but you are only half way through the battle. The next day you are going through your phone, and there it is... you stumble upon that number that you acquired the day before and decide to give it a call. Ring Ring Ring no answer, next thing you hear is please leave your message at the sound of the beep.

So the question lies, When you 1st get a woman's number, should one leave a voice message if she doesn't pick up? One can defend this question by saying "leaving a voice message puts the ball in the women's court, by leaving a message if she is interested she will call back", correct? Well not exactly! Thinking in terms of a single woman or just woman in general the road runner and the coyote theatrics is their cup of tea, their nonsexual foreplay in which they all engage in (and quite well might I add). The woman did not want the ball to be in her court, well not yet anyways, hence the reason why she did not approach you, and ask for your number in the first place. Remember you initiated the conversation, you initiated the request for the digits, and you should be the one to initiate the 1st live telephone conversation as well.

Lets take into account one scenario where the woman does not pick up the phone, there could be numerous reasons why she does not the first time, she could be at work, she could be on the line with her girlfriends, or maybe it is just that she does not pick up phone numbers she does not recognize, the list goes on and on. First impressions are everything, well at least that is how the saying goes. Do you want your first conversation with a particular person to be in the form of a voice message? We all know no matter how hard one tries to sound smooth and poised on a voicemail, it never succeeds, your voice sounds funny, you forget to leave your name or number, or your just not quite sure what to say. Why put the ball in her court when the ball so far has been in yours, the power you worked so hard to obtain you just took it and left it on the voicemail. Women crave spuntinuity, outside the box thinking, and most importantly a challenge. I am not one for playing games, but understand it is all about how you play the game! So remember the next time you get that number and just as your about to press the green talk button, Ring..Ring..Ring..and you hear please record your message after the tone In the words of the Late Great Aaliyah "Dust yourself off and try again."
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